I have a huge log in my eye but I’m so distracted by the speck in my husband’s that I’m walking around half-blind and in pain all the while trying to “help” him remove his. This is the story of my life it seems. I’m often frustrated with myself and my continuous struggle in the same area.
I really am on a quest to learn what it means to surrender. Truly surrender my “rightness”. I *know* I’m right but my delivery is so awful I end up negating my whole very good and right point! Can I get an amen sister? Am I alone in this? I sure hope not. I’m currently reading this really phenomenal book by Gary Thomas called Sacred Influence: How God uses wives to shape the souls of their husbands.
It’s really been teaching me some powerful things. I wish that I could report that I am following this advice with great success. But alas it isn’t so. I really blew it today. I mean really blew it. I tried to tell my very dear and precious husband something that was on my mind and it went south. Fast.
So off I go to pick up my trusty book and what is the first paragraph I read? You won’t believe it.
“If your husband senses that your trying to “take over,” he’ll get defensive, not malleable. He’ll fight for his turf without even trying to understand you. He won’t hear if you if he doesn’t feel as though you support him.”
Aaahhh. He didn’t hear me because I wasn’t supporting him in all the right things he does. So I’m getting out my chainsaw to work on that log…
